Staying dad: A focused coaching group for fathers with trauma bonded children after divorce and separation

An online coaching group with Karen Woodall

About this coaching group:

Fathers with trauma bonded children, whose attachment has been disrupted in divorce and separation, are faced with the difficulties of keeping the relational bonds alive in circumstances where mothers are often playing a gatekeeping role. In these circumstances, the attachment bonds between father and child(ren) come under intense pressure as the child is potentially exposed to excessive anxieties, control behaviours, different parenting styles, and an expectation that father-care is secondary to that provided by mothers.

Taking an attachment focused, therapeutic parenting approach to supporting children in such circumstances can provide significant change in the way that these dynamics evolve and, coupled with structural awareness of how to manage the framework of care arrangements in ways that enable the father-child bond to flourish, outcomes for children can be improved.

This is a therapeutic parenting based coaching programme which focusses on strengthening your ability to respond to the traumatised child's disorganised attachment behaviours which are caused when children are trauma bonded or hyper aligned to their mother due to a range of issues, some of which may be harmful to the child. This group will improve your ability to understand why children behave as they do in circumstances where they are exposed to gatekeeping behaviours and how you can keep the focus on your child whilst ensuring that you are able to offer proximity, safety and the security that protects the father-child attachment bond.

Topics covered include:

• Self care and the circle of reciprocity
• Interpersonal relational safety, protecting the father-child attachment bond
• Whose anxiety? Transgenerational patterns of trauma.
• Keeping a clear timeline, establishing objectivity in your court case
• Boundary holding in an enmeshed world
• Clarifying your intent, keeping your expectations clear for the road ahead.

Please note:

A Zoom link for this event will be included in your order confirmation. This link should be used for all sessions. Please contact parenting@familyseparationclinic.co.uk with any questions you may have.